Turning Pain into Relief

There are times in life when circumstances or the way we deal with these situations can cause us great emotional and even physical pain. Sometimes it’s our lack of energy that can make often simple distractions into significant challenges.

How can we turn this pain into relief?

The first thing we need to do, as soon as this becomes possible, is to remove ourselves from the stresses of the environment to somewhere quiet and sedate.

What if I have a house full of kids/noisy environment and nowhere to go?

People will always make excuses if they don’t want to change. We all have somewhere quieter to go; there are public libraries in our towns and cities, parks and other places within walking distance that we can escape from these external stressors. Heck, I’ve even worked with people in my car, including taking them into trance!

So once we’ve escaped the external stressors we need to work on the things that are affecting us internally.

How can I do this on my own?

Get a pen and paper and write down the things that are causing you pain or discomfort, write them ALL down and write how they make you feel.

There is something magical that happens when thoughts are transferred onto paper, they look and seem slightly different, we find another perspective on them. You may also be crossing one or two of after realising that maybe they are not things that bother you now you have acknowledged them.

So what do I do next?

Firstly allow yourself to become comfortable, allow yourself to relax your major muscle groups and take a few diaphragmatic breaths. When you breathe in, imagine you are breathing in relaxation and when you breathe out, imagine stress and tension leaving your body.

Look at each of your perceived problems and ask yourself these questions:

1) Am I blaming anyone for these issues? (If you are you are giving away your power to change them)

2) Am I able to take responsibility for how I may have been partly responsible for creating these issues? (Taking responsibility allows you to take back your personal power)

3) What are the lessons I must learn from these situations (This allow you to grow and update your knowledge to avoid making any similar mistakes)

4) How can I look at these situations differently now, in order to help me feel more positive about myself and my life? (Allow the learning to settle into your very core)

5) What can I do differently now, in order to move forward towards the things I WANT in my life? (Give yourself a map, a direction for future comfort)

6) What will I plan to do over the coming days and weeks in order to not only make me (and those important to me) feel better but to allow myself to move towards the things I want to achieve in my life.

Invest in yourself…

Kind regards,

Nick

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