Be Careful What You wish For

I jokingly posted a status update on my Facebook account wishing to be given Cheryl Cole this Christmas, which reminded me of something a lady said to me at a party some years ago.

I was in my 20’s and I thought I’d draw on this ladies experience (she was in her 40’s) and was known for her wisdom (she could read palms too!), so I asked her what she thought my chances were with a beautiful girl I had been engaging with earlier.

She said “Be careful what you wish for!” with a wry smile.

It stopped me dead in my tracks.

What did she mean “Be careful…”? How could anything bad come out of wanting to be with someone I was attracted to.

Then she went on to explain that we makes “wishes” a lot in our lives, sometimes when we feel good, sometimes when we feel sad or depressed and sometimes these wishes are just a response to a situation.

How many times when be told off as a child by a parent or teacher and thought “I hate you!” and not mean it and felt bad afterwards.

Luckily, our unconscious mind generally ignores single requests like this and responds when we have consistently and emotionally requested something. This is why habits are difficult to change without Hypnosis or Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP).

Also this lady went on to explain that when we wish for something not to happen, we also create an attraction to it. For example if I say to you “Don’t think of a blue bus now!”, you have to think of it, then un-think it.

I remember this happening to me when I trained most days with weights or boxing because of a fear of violence I had, but because I was making pictures in my mind of what I didn’t what to happen I seemed to attract these situations.

Now I create pictures of the things I want and create matching positive affirmative internal dialogue. If I catch myself thinking negatively I change it as quickly as I can, this takes practice and I’m still working on it, but the dividends it pays make it worth while.

So this Christmas I urge you “Be careful what you wish for!”, think positively and have the most fantastic Christmas ever!

Oh yes, my wish did come true.

Merry Christmas!

Nick