Surprising State

Often when I’m out socialising or performing a show and people find out that I’m a Hypnotherapist and Life Coach, people will pull me to one side to ask me some help concerning issues of the mind. I’ll always help as much as I can, as I love people and my job and could talk about psychology all day long…some of my friends would say I actually do!

What surprises me is the amount of people suffering with different states of stress, anxiety or depression, people who on the surface look to have everything under control. It seems nowadays, the majority of people are struggling to cope in some way with the “stuff” life throws at us.

The other thing that shocked me was the amount of people who are currently on medication to help resolve their situation. I think it can help in the short term if you’ve left things too late, but often people become reliant on it and take it long term. These types of medication do not resolve issues of the mind, but suppresses them to allow you to function for a while, the issues still need resolving.

After quizzing a lot of people it seems that there are three major stumbling blocks.

The first is knowing where to turn. Do you go to the Doctors and risk being prescribed medication and/or counselling, or risk going privately and trying to wade through the masses of numbers in the yellow pages or internet.

The second is the feeling that the person you go to for help will make you feel inferior or patronise you in some way, in the way the dress, talk or treat you. This is actually more common than you’d think, I’ll explain in a bit.

And the third is the fear of the perceived stigma that is attached with seeking help, often people say to me that they feel “weak” having to seek help and worry what their friends, family and colleagues will say.

In January 2000 I collapsed was taken to Hospital and afterwards began suffering with really bad headaches, dizziness, anxiety and panic attacks.

I was convinced at the time I was suffering with a brain tumour or similar serious illness so I requested every test I could.

After weeks of tests and an anxious wait the Doctor told me he could find nothing physically wrong with me and said it must be “Stress related”, which I disagreed with. He prescribed medication (which made me worse) and counselling where I experienced all three of the “stumbling blocks” above.

The Doctors and counsellors didn’t help much, in some cases making me worse.

I now know, after much research, the illness was caused by working far too many hours under a great deal of pressure, not sleeping or resting enough, having relationship problems and moving house and not listening to my body telling me it was struggling to cope.

If I’m honest it was not a good time for me, but it provided me with a massive impetus to find out why I had arrived at this “State” and how I could change it. I don’t recommend you take this journey as it was very long and arduous.

I spent the next 10 years of my life, reading every book I could get my hands on, studying audio CDs, videos, DVDs and attending training courses. To not only find the solutions to my issues but to find the best way to present them to people so clients feel empowered and get the results they want quickly and permanently.

I have developed a style of helping people that is both reassuring and friendly, where people can make changes with a minimum amount of discomfort (even enjoy the changes in most sessions) and feel they are working with someone they can talk to and trust.

My mission now is to reach out and help as many people as I can, this is why I have recently been running free seminars and offer free consultations to potential clients.

Recommendation is the best way of finding the right person to work with, if you need a good plumber, you’d ask around your social circle for anyone who knew of anyone who was reasonably priced and did a good job.

So if you know anyone who is suffering with stress, anxiety or depression or any other psychological issues I’d appreciate it if you’d pass on my details.

There is a video that accompanies this newsletter on the email which advertises our next FREE seminar, here is the link again http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G_IzKCXUOlU. You can also go to www.WSOH.co.uk/freestuff for details and to register.

Also if you’d like me to come and do a free talk for your organisation or workplace (minimum of 6 people), please contact me to discuss this.

I am really passionate about getting this message out to as many of those people who are stuck in those “States” and don’t know where to go for help. So if you think anyone would benefit from this, please pass it on.

Thank you for taking the time to read this and watch the video, have a fantastic day!

Nick